How to Cope With a Broken Heart
by Danielle Gray

Depression Among College Women
by Colleen Foley


How to Cope With a Broken Heart
by Danielle Gray

Life seems like it's over. How will I ever get over this? I thought it was meant to be this time. I thought it was love but I guess I was wrong. I'm never getting into another relationship again. I trusted him, how could he break my heart like this?

Have you ever found yourself saying those words? If not, I'm sure you have had a friend pour her heart out to you after a devastating break-up with her significant other. When suffering from a broken heart, it seems like the grief and agony will never end. Depression can often set in if the problem is not remedied. Here are a few tips to help you get through the pain.

  • Crying is a good way to release pressure. It's all right to cry. In fact, in most cases, you will probably feel better and stronger after you do. It is important to let your feelings out instead of keeping them bottled up inside. Expressing yourself is the first step to recovery. So get a jumbo box of tissues, crawl into bed, and have a good cry.

  • Also talking about it can help. Discuss what happened and how you feel with a close friend or relative. They will understand and try to comfort you as much as possible.

  • If you are a religious person, pray about it. You will be surprised to see how much better you feel.

  • Enjoy yourself. Take some time out just for you. Go out on the town with a group of your closest friends. Go to a party or grab a bite to eat at a nice restaurant. Pamper yourself by going on a shopping spree or by taking a long relaxing bubble bath while reading a good book.

  • Avoid as much as possible doing things that remind you of your ex.

  • Realize that life will go on, and that you existed long before your significant other came into your life. You are the same strong, capable, intelligent, and beautiful woman you were before he came along. Do not think less of yourself now. Don't hinder yourself from new experiences and meeting new people because you have had your heart broken. You have your whole life ahead of you.

  • Finally, get to know yourself as an individual. It's fun to be single; be happy with yourself. Make a list of what you have to offer and what makes you special. Read it when you are having a low self-esteem day.

After a bad break up some women may have identified themselves as worthless, helpless, and alone. The above tips are just a few helpful ideas that you could consider following, if you or an acquaintance is suffering from broken heart. Keep in mind this one heartbreak is probably the first of many. Don't be discouraged. The experience may have you feeling weak for now, but it will leave you a stronger person in the end.


Depression Among College Women
by Colleen Foley

Over the past few decades, society has begun to recognize depression as a common disease among American adults, particularly affecting women. More recently, researchers have been finding a large number of cases of depression among college women. The reports from the National Consumer Supporter Technical Assistance Center website indicates that nineteen million American adults suffer from depression and thirteen percent of college women suffer from the disease annually. Statistics from the reports indicate that similar numbers of individuals suffer from anxiety disorders. Women are five times more likely to suffer from anxiety than are men. The report also stated that in 1998 suicide was the second leading cause of death among college students.

Anyone who has ever suffered from depression or anxiety can tell that you do not feel like yourself, almost as if you are having an out-of-body experience. Some signs of depression include sleeping too much or not enough, poor concentration, weight loss or weight gain, low or no sex drive, helplessness or irritability. Of these symptoms, hopelessness and irritability are the two that are found more commonly among women than men.

As a female student who suffered through some months of mild depression while in school, I feel I have some insight as to why so many college women are feeling overwhelmed. The combination of intense course loads, family issues, work schedules, and relationship problems is too much. When these events happen individually they are tough enough, but many readers may agree, it seems that stressful events tend to happen all at the same time, increasing the impact they have on your life.

Also, the tragic events that have occurred in this country and around the world over the last year have left an impact on students. Feelings of anxiety about everyday safety and uncertainty about the future have left some students feeling more overwhelmed and anxious than usual. These feelings all lead to a sense of loss and loneliness, leaving people feeling as if their inner spirits have been lost or changed as a result of stressors in their lives.

It is estimated that over half of female students with depression suffer unknowingly. Women often recognize that they do not feel well and that something is not quite right inside of them, but they are unaware or unwilling to admit they are displaying signs of anxiety or depression.

If you feel as though you suffer from any of these symptoms, there are many things you can do. First, and most importantly, you should seek the help of a counselor.

Towson has an excellent Counseling Center, staffed by professionals. It is open Monday through Friday from 8am to 5pm during the fall and spring semesters. In the meantime, you can try some self-help techniques:

  • Goal setting. Break down large tasks into smaller more manageable projects. Upon completion of these goals, your self-esteem will be higher and hopefully you will have gained a sense of control over your life.

  • Relaxation and breathing techniques. These have been known to reduce stress and anxiety.

  • Exercise. Take a brisk outdoor walk. Hit the gym. Get moving to lift your spirits. Towson has great aerobics classes on a daily basis. Class schedules are available in Burdick Hall. Remember; "Healthy mind, healthy body."

If you are suffering from depression it will be hard to get motivated in the beginning, so start small and try to enlist others to help you stay with it. For example, plan to jog at a certain time every day with a friend, or take an exercise class where you are surrounded by peers and motivated by an instructor.

I wrote this article because I felt isolated and scared, when I was in a period of mild depression last year. Feeling as if you are not yourself is one of the scariest feelings, especially when you feel as though no one understands what you are experiencing. It was not until I researched the topic that I realized my feelings were far from uncommon. I hope this article will help others feel less isolated and give them options, in terms of places to turn for help.